an "aha" moment

i was watching oprah today and she was talking about repairing relationships with others. she said something along the lines of: i won't go back in the past, but i will meet you where you are now. i think that hits the mark for me for some relationships that i didn't know how to describe or deal with. sometimes there's so much pain and silliness in the past that it's not worth it to go backwards and ask "why?" a million times. the answers probably won't help anyway. sometimes you just have to say "where are you now? i'll meet you there if you'll do the same." hmmm...that's an idea worth following.